When one is newly single, the dating game might look kind of horrifying, but when a newly single knows what to do (and not to do), dating is not bound to be a failure.
For everybody for whom a relationship has just ended, no matter who initiated the split, the change to singledom could be a really abrupt one. If the end of the relationship is desired, then newly singles usually take it lightly and it is easier for them to move on. On the other hand, if the end of the relationship wasn't desired, for many people being newly single is tough.
In either case, newly singles shouldn't give up dating. Of course, it doesn't hurt to be a bit more cautious. Here are some tips for newly singles how to resume dating after separation.
Make Sure the Past is Past
One of the most tricky challenges for a newly single is to forget his or her ex. If a newly single still has feelings about his or her ex, then rushing into a new relationship might not be the wisest move. Instead, wait a bit and heal before moving on.
One of the reasons why a newly single men or woman should wait before rushing into a new relationship is that when the ex is not forgotten, the risk of a rebound relationship is not to be underestimated. A rebound relationship can be very painful for everybody involved and it is much better not to start it at all. And remember: Beware of Rebound Relationships
Know What Type of Relationship to Pursue
Many newly singles are totally unaware of what they want. Most of them want just a relationship. However, relationships come in many flavors – a fling, a committed relationship, or marriage just to name a few. It is best to clarify in advance what type of relationship to pursue because this can affect how to proceed next. For instance, if a newly single decides to try online dating, there are special sites for flings, for people who are looking just for a sex partner, and for daters who are after marriage.
Change the Type of Lover
Very often relationships end because of a trivial mistake – incompatibility. It is true that opposites attract but for stable relationships such drastic differences in behavior, tastes, opinion, etc. are not necessarily good. Still, many people have a pattern – i.e. they fall with the same type of lover – i.e. a macho, a Mamma's boy, a Daddy's girl, etc. – and they make the same mistake over and over again. If this is true, it is best to change the type of lover because some types of men and women are simply not suitable for the type of relationship a newly single is after.
Well trully I say I take it from Google, but I think it's good for me to share it all with you, what do you think? ;) XOXO
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